When I choose happiness- it is a direct result of me choosing to manage those things that try to distract me from it. Growth comes when we can get curious and introspective as to what is making us tick. When someone or something gets your emotions to rise quickly it is usually not because of that person or event. With introspection we can often identify the related nerve that is being pressed. With self critique or overt criticism we can quickly choose anger, anxiety, fear or sadness as our default emotion. When I choose to understand who I am and how I think, I choose to have permission to be perfectly imperfect while I grow to be the best me. When I am learning, when I am being responsible for me and my emotions, I can choose happiness even when things external from me may appear not to be happy. Happy is a response to self care and self awareness not from external events.